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21 Apr 2004

Obsessive behaviour
I sucked my fingers until I was about 14 and played with the 'lace' around certain blankets from childhood until now (I'm nearly 30). I rub the lace until my fingers become caloused and sore. I sit and do this for ages instead of getting on with work, etc. I walk around with the blanket in my house so that I can sit and watch tv while rubbing it or play on the computer. I interupt what I'm doing so that I can sit and rub the lace on the blanket. It makes this sound that I love and the feeling makes me feel calm and relaxed. It also helps me to fall asleep. I know this sounds stupid - but this is obviously unatural behaviour for an adult. It disturbs my friends (after the humor died down!!). Should I seek help?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Yes, you should seek help. This isn't something terrible, but obviously inconvenient and worth getting rid of, to replace it with your own ability to make yourself feel calm and happy, without the security blanket. As you imply, something like this is commonplace in childhood, the shrinks even have a posh name for it, a "Transitional Object" which may be a blanket, a teddy bear, or whatever, and is part of a process leading us towards adult feelings of security and calm. Some of us don't quite get beyond this stage. Working with a psychologist would be a good idea, as this remains an area of vulnerability, and you could be far happier and more secure once you move beyond this stage and further into your otherwise adult life.
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