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05 Sep 2007

Partner dictates celibacy
My partner prefers masturbation and pornography to sex with me. We have been celibate for over a year and before that we only had sex maybe twice a year! This situation drives me up the wall and when I have confronted him he says he will 'make the effort' to get our sex life going and then nothing happens until we argue about it again and then the same old promise is made.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

What you're decribing sounds extremely selfish on his part. Tango is right that you need to get involved, together, in marriage counselling asap. And i he persists in ignoring your needs and pleasure while indulging himself solitarily, that could indeed be grounds for divorce if he refuses to even try seriously to change ( and by try seriously, I mean working with expert help, not just making empty promises ).
There's nothing whatever wrong with you, it's his problem, and he sounds like a guy who prefers the empty relationship with porn pictures to the responsibilities of a eal relationship with a real woman ---this is a guy sadly lacking in self-confidence and self-esteem
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