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09 Mar 2010

Pls give me some advice
I am a married man, and feel like a total dog. About 5 months ago I started a friendship with a wonderful muslim lady. We chatted and emailed, and suddenly found ourselves having feelings for each other. We fell in love............and I mean completely inlove. She has very strong morals and we have not taken anything further than kissing. I know this is totally wrong, but I find myself not having feelings for my wife anymore. I am hating myself and have to do something......Im lost, I hate myself for being this way......and letting this happen. I dont know what to do.
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01 Jan 0001

You are having an affair, with all the usual implications of that. Within the terms of her own religion, your Muslim amour should not have been meeting a married man at all, let alone kissing him ( and in a more fundamentalist community, should not have been meeting ANY man outside of her family without the family's knowledge, approval and an escort ). Part with her, for your sake, her sake, and that of your wife. Then get into mariage counselling to see what can be done to heal your mariage. Or admit to your wife that you have lost track of this marriage, and seek a divorce.
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