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10 Sep 2007

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Hi
this lady stays close to my please quite frankly we grew up together and we are very good friends and she we do a lot of things together. She told me that she is not interested in me and we should be friends but the problem is that I think of here a lot when she is not around..but when we are together I have so much fun and fulfilment. I think I'm cheating on our friendship because of this feelings .this needs to stop because I don't want to loose our friend ship at the same time I really want to be with here.and she knows that.. my Q is that can I stop this friendship with here and maybe I can stop thinking of here 2much because these feelings will not stop. I'm trying very hard and I can not see my self being with any other girl at this stage. I currently have a girlfriend but I cannot commit to here because I always think of my friend and I feel very bad and really want to love here but I cant. I have not had any sexual intercourse with either of them yet which is a good thing...what can I do in this situation..
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

YOu have a gf, but apparently you aren't genuinely interested in her as a gf. Then there's this other girls who seems to have made it really clear that she wants nothing more than a normal friendship, but you choose to keep convincing yourself that somehow she'll magically change her mind about this. You're not being fair to your gf, to your friend, or to yourself. Move on, with the help of a counsellor if necessary. Stop thinking about the relationship you will not be able to have, and keep yourself busy with other activities and thoughts, and move on
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