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11 Jan 2006

Pressure to have another child
What do you do when your daughter pressurizes you to have another child, coz she wants a baby sister that she can play with, feed and change nappies. A day is not a day without questions like, "are you pregnant, is there a baby in your tummy, i can feel a baby kicking in ur tummy"!!! I bought her a doll that she can play with, but this doesnt seem to stop her. Things are really NOT working out between me and the father, who has also been presurizing me for another child. Mind you we are not even married and staying separately. I am just not financially and emotionaly ready to do it, especially given that things are bad between me and my bf, we are not even talking.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, you certainly don't go ahead and have another child to satisfy such neurotic requests ! I wonder why she has become so obsessed with pregnancy ? Is she lonely and lacking in playmates in the usual way ? Is the mother of some friend of hers pregnant, and she feels jealous ? You don't mention her age, wich may be very relevant. have you discussed this with her in sympathetic detail ; exploring what she thinks of why mom's decide whether or not to have another child, and what it might actually mean to her ( eg less attention from you as you attend to the baby ) if you had another child ?
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