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28 May 2004

Pushing me over the limits - ENOUGH
Hi Doc , firstly Gr8 forum , very interresting to read everyones replies , realy helps in those sticky situations.. This is what happened , husband out on bussiness , said he will be back @ 6pm , never happens, I phone (normal reaction as a wife and mother supper is ready) said he is leaving NOW (about 1hours drive ) now he is drinking , @ 7:15pm I phone again , still there , conversation ends where he says he will phone me as soon as he leaves ( I honstly thinks he should rather sleep over , he obviously is consuming a lot of alchohol). @ 10:30 he phones from his sisters house (they are also heavy drinkers) and said he will leave "now" just stops for a quick coffee (obviously he is sozzeled) @ 1:30 am he rocks up at home as sozzeled as a ghost with his sister and her husband both so sozzeled - WHY do they lie like this , it is realy pay bakc time now !! please give some tips , I realy want to get back to him , THIS is not the 1st time it happens - COWARD!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hi mimmi,
I wish I could think of some magic way to solve this sort of problem, but I haven't found one yet. It's difficult when he is abusing alcohol, and has the support of his sister & her usband, who are also problem drinkers. Driving drunk, they may not get home unscathed, any of these times. One can at best sit down and discuss this with him, and ask him to recognize that this is hardly fair to you, and is really very risky to him. ( He's lucky he hasn't been caught by the police for drunk driving so far ). But an alcoholic is already hiding from reality, in the booze, and doesn't face reality too eagerly. It may take a crisis like being stopped and checked for his blood alcohol levels, or some similar crisis, to wake him up.
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