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07 Apr 2003

question for men : why you men cheat on their wives?
Well heck where do I start? have been in a marriage for over 20 years - which I thought was perfect (well almost) - then the bombshell dropped - wow I could not believe it. Was I fooled!! Anyway after walking through very dark places and seeing a psychiatrist, and other professionals, I am now better and have decided to stay. But all though this nobody can tell me why "men do this"?
What makes a man stray from his home - to seek excitement or what?
He says he loves me - but heck why did he stray to start with?
It is so heartbreaking for women, can a man even comprehend what he actually does to his partner?
Another question - why does it always seem to be somebody from the opposite end of the scale? i.e. totally different from what they have at home?
And finally, 1 last question : how would he feel if I did the runabout?
I would really appreciate a bit of input in order to try to understand why it happened in the first place.
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01 Jan 0001

Dear jane, Well, let's see what our other wise readers have to say about this. Personally, I don't do that, so I can't comment from my personal experience.
However, let's be just a little fair. A man did this to you, and far too many men do similar things, but not all men. And far too many women do exactly the same thing to their husbands and stable boyfriends --- it isn't actually a gender-linked thing, infidelity. So maybe the real question is a bit broader --- how and why do people within a committed relatonship manage to disregard the inevitable pain it will cause their partner, in this way ?
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