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29 Sep 2006

reply-because we decided to start afresh
my partner cheated on me a while back. i fully understand what she is going through with all the questions etc. i understand what she means when she says that she wants to take revenge by cheating on him. if u have not been in this situation none of u will ever understand what she is going through. the feeling of worthlessness, betrayal, sadness, anger, looking at urself and only seeing an ugly useless person, makes u want to cheat. i wanted to experience what my partner experienced during the affair, also feel the excitement, thrill and secrecy of the whole thing. u want to feel appreciated and loved at that moment, so what do u start thinking? i want to have affair myself, that will make me feel better.
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cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Revenge feels as though it could be marvellous when you're thinking about it, but I've never come across a situation in which it actually was o, and in most instances it only made the situation still worse all round. If she is feeling worthless, how does it help to act out like a really worthless person, instead of getting proper expert help to improve the way she feels about herself ? How would she feel less ugly, after doing something ugly ? You are not your partner, so you would never feel whatever he may have felt --- only what you would feel, and that is likely to be a whole lot less pleasant and satisfying than it may seem in your fantasy.
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