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17 Oct 2008

Selfish/Jealous man??
Hi there, I' ve beeing seeing this guy for a short while (2wks) and I suspect that he is only after me for s& x. He is quite sweet and incredibly sexy but everytime I see him he just paws at me and it drives me insane. I like affection as much as the next person but this just seems excessive. I saw him last night (I was annoyed already because he said that he would be at my house at 9pm and then only pitched up at 10pm (from a function). We slept together last night for the 1st time and it wasn' t exactly brilliant. At one point I actually thought he had fallen asleep! Once it was over he just rolled over and said Ok, turn out the light now. And that was it! I was so mad I couldn' t sleep!! He also seems like the jealous type. I am going to a braai tonight with a group of friends cos a friend of mine from overseas is visiting and arrives today. He wanted to go out tonight and I told him about the braai. He' s like, he doesn' t like me going cos there are going to be a whole lot of other single guys there and people always get up to mischief at braais!?? I was very annoyed about that and he said that I must tell everybody that I' m seeing someone. I get the feeling that this may be a bad step getting involved with him. Any thoughts please advise!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

It does indeed sound as though he may be using you, and certainly as though he has little interest in you other than as a source of sex. Apart from the sex, is this really all you want from a relationship ?
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