Ask an expert

20 Jul 2011

Sex With dad in law
I had sex with my father in law and it was great I cannot stop thinking about him. He apologised and I apologised to him as well. It is only the two of us who knows about it and we both promised not to do it again. Why did i do it why did I do it why did i do it. I love my husband and committed to this marriage but WHY WHY WHY WHY how do i erase this memories how do i forget about this. How do i look at him and how do i look at my mom in law and move on. Will the devorce to my husband be a solution?
Answer 2,835 views

01 Jan 0001

You don't mention when or how this happened, and what your age was at the time. If you were under-age, this was rape, whether or not he apologised and whether or not you enjoyed it. If it happened when you were an adult, then it is indeed difficult to understand why you might have done this. Either way, you need to see a counsellor / psychotherapst to work through understanding and getting over this. Don't allow yourself to be alone with your father-in-law again. Your counsellor can help you, after discussing the relevant details, to decide how best to cope with this and get beyond it, and what to say to your husband. You and the father-in-law cheated on his wife, and your husband, and both of you acted wrongly.
Divorcing your husband doesn't help, and is unfair to him. If you are indeed committed to this marriage, work with a counsellor on getting yourself sorted out, then work with a couples / marriage counsellor to sort out the marriage.
The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical examination, diagnosis and formal advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.
Voting Booth
Have you entered our Health of the Nation survey?
Please select an option Oops! Something went wrong, please try again later.
32% - 9438 votes
68% - 20011 votes