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19 Nov 2008

Sexual Abuse
Dear Doc
I have been sexually abused once as a child a year before I went to primary school. I have never told anyone not even my family about it. Because I feel so guilty and angry towards myself, I feel as if I have participate in it. Over the years I push it out of my mind as if it never happened and even convince myself that it was maybe a dream or my mind is playing games with me but lately I keep on thinking about it. And I cannot ever tell my Mom because I dont want to hurt her. And I am feeling so ashamed about it. And I am scared that this will affect my whole life as I can' t stop thinking about it and it' s like it happened just yesterday. And everytime I see my abuser, I feel so ashame but also remind myself that He cannot do it to me because I am grown up now. How can I get over this?
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01 Jan 0001

Abuse of a child is the fault of the abuser, not the child. That it is still pre-occupying you now is most unfortunate. There's nothing to blame yourself for or feel ashamed of. You need to see a good local psychologist / counsellor to talk this through and work through it so as to be free to enjoy the rest of your life, without allowing recollections of the abuser to continue to harrass you. This can be achieved, and you would be much happier for doing so
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