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09 Jan 2006

should I give up?
I am so confused regarding the male species. I dated 15 men last year (only slept with 4 of them) and they all ended the same way. It starts off very well, with them all over me, phoning me all the time, wanting to take me out, etc and then it becomes less and less. They start making promises and dont stick to them. Say they will call and then dont. The last one I just lost it and let him know all about it....

I am not needy and am not all over them, phoning them all the time, wanting to meet, etc. So why does this happen?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Reckless, it sounds as though you may be trying rather too hard, too hectically. I'm sure in time our other readers will have some useful advice, based on their own experiences, too. I've met some rather unpleasant cats in my life, but that doesn't mean that I didn't find a marvellous cat with whom we had a great 17-year relationship until she died of old age ---- by point being, don't give up on a whole species because you found some bad specimens. Also, consider seeing a personal counsellor to explore this in more depth --- after such a long series of failures, maybe there are some ways in which it would be useful to brush up on your techniques, to become better at selecting and maintaining relationships
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