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15 Jan 2010

Should I leave or wait for him to make a decision
I' ve been going out with my BF for the past three months, its been wonderfull untill the past few weeks, when his family and friends started interviing in our relationship, they want him to go back to his girlftrien of three years, they even set them tdown to discuss their future. and his friends told him that I am doing one of them which is not true, the bad part is that his brother is vouching for him and that makes it hard for him to believe me , cuase he says he cant uinderstand why his bro would lie to him.

now h' es been giving me a cold shoulder ever since the incident, a few days ago, hes brother passed on, and he asked me not to attend the funeral, but still he wants me jto wait for he' s decision, today I called t see how he' s doing since the tragedy, he told me not to call him, he will call me. so basically what exactly is he keeping me waiting for cause his behaviour is telling me he' s alredy decided to go back to his ex, Im so confused, I dont want to loose the good thing that we have, but my mind keeps telling me that i should just call him and break up.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Haven't you worried that he had a gf for 3 years, then apparently dumped her for you ? Isn't it possible he could eventually treat you similarly ?
Anyhow, relationships should be joint decisions- why is this seen as all up to him to decide ? If he's even thinking of going back to someone else, then you never had a "thing" as good as you thought it was. Sounds like the breakup has already, in effect, happened. Why waste the cost of a call ?
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