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09 Sep 2007

So messed up over a guy
I fell in love with this guy I have known for 8mths. He's attached but he likes me back. After a while we both decided that it was best for us to remain as friends. We used to work together but I have since left the company. I know he truly cares about me and even after a while he still bothered about me and would call or text me on my cell and ask if I was doing ok. I know he loves his girl but he can't deny that he likes me a great deal too. I was determined to move on and so when I met someone new I jumped at the chance to start a fresh even though I still liked the other guy. After a month or so, I realised I was still in love with the other guy. I told him that and he told me that I deserved better and that I deserved to be with the new guy in my life. I was confused. I thought he would still love me. But when I read his blogs he kept saying he was depressed over some family problems. Then he said he missed his lovely bitch...I wasn't too sure if he was talking about his gf or me or even his best fren who is a girl...I am of christian faith and ever since I knew that I wanted him back, I have been going to church everyday to pray that he and I will get together but its like he's so distant nowadays. He's something like on a temporary break with his Gf now and yet he's always too busy to meet up and etc. I sort of feel like he's avoiding me...should I continue with hoping that we still have a chance together or is this God's way of telling me that he has a better plan for me? I'm so confused. I still love him and I really want to be with him...everyone says to always perservere and never give up....should I continue hoping that something might come out of it or just learn to let things go?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Why have you been insisting that a man who is already attached and in love with someone else, MUST love you ? Why are you insisting on focussing on no alternative but that he must love you and give up other friedns for you ? And do you expect God to get involved in people's love affairs ? Why not pray rather to learn to let go of things that don't seem meant to be, and to move on and find someone unattached, and who actually wants to be with you ?
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