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20 Sep 2007

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My bf is suffocating me. I now have to make up lies that I have plans in the evening, just so that I can have some spare time. Whenever I say I am spending the evening on my own, he lays this guilt trip on me that I dont want to spend time with him.
In the beginning of our relationship, I went out of my way to please him and now that I am getting tired of doing things his way, he has a problem with it. He is making him avoid him like the plaque. How do I fix this?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Don't get into lying. You need to talk this through with him directly, with the aid of a good local counsellor, if needs be. Make it cleaer to him that you will not accept an obsessive and suffocating, over-controlled relationship with him, and that you refuse to be made to feel guilty about the normal human desire to spend some time alone. You shouldn't have to work so desperately to please him --- what is he doing to please you ?
Oh, as for avoiding the plaque, I"m told that frequent brushing will do it
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