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02 Aug 2007

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I was 3 mnths pregnant miscarried two days ago and i had to be on my own meaning he couldn't take me to hospital as he was very busy at work, went through the pain the loss finally discharged had to still call a taxi home of which the next day was going of check-up the same story of taxi when i questioned him it's being under lot of pressure at work he is sorry he won't be able to forgive himself for what he did. I was in pain bleeding with cramps but to drop me off at hospital wasn't gonna be of much of a problem, we've been married for 12 yrs with lots pf difficulties of course but i hanged in there thinking that things will change instead it gets worse but he keep saying i love u it's all about my work nothing else but what i don't uderstand is the fact that can't he feel the same pain as i am, sorry doesn't seem to be good enough as i am hurt with great loss but again it looks like it's my own loss not his but he doesn't say in so many words.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Good grief, does ANY company / work expect ANY man EVER to stick to his work and NOT accompany his wife to the hospital for a miscarriage ? That sort of thing ought to be unconstitutional. And whether or not any company expects it, what sort of man expects that of himself ? What is all that work FOR ? Except to support the wife and family and find some mutual happiness, rather than more work ? That guy needs counselling. Can't you persuade him to prove that love he keeps claiming to have, by joining you in some mariage counselling, and not allowing the work excuse to interfere with that ?
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