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10 Jun 2004

Thanks Q & Juzlisen
YOu are both amazing! Thank you for your advice. Juzlisen, i hope you are right when you say that "absence makes the heart grow fonder" I wonder about "Out of sight, out of mind?"

Q, thank you for your kind words & compliments. You are right , IT IS SO HARD...I don't want to be alone anymore...You are probably going to laugh now, but im 23! Everyone says im so beautiful, young, can do so much better when it comes to guys, but the reality is when your heart is with someone, its REALLY hard to see your OWN potential.

I forgot to mention & ask your advice on this one.....i bought him a shirt & stunnig bedding for his bed, and his words to me last night were: " You will never lie on that bedding or see me in that shirt" Just accept that its over Liesel" His story/words change suddenly each time. He will say things like that, then say we can be freinds, then start touching me, joking around,etc. Then turn around again and say i musn't hope for anything. Its all confusing. When he started touching me last night i first said what does he think he is doing, and he replied: "i can touch what i want, when i want" Also, while we were in bed, he said that we shouldn't be doing this, but made no effort to stop or get dressed again, etc.

I also saw an sms on his phone last night which he has been sending to his sister's freind ( she is still in Matric) how he can't wait to see her, etc. I ask him about that and he says that she is a great girl, but they are not dating or anything. He said he has no plans to go out with her this year. He says she is still young. But my point is that why is his feelings directed at her & he has thoughts that she is "potential" when it could rather be me. He says that its because she didnt hurt him like i did! He says he has made up his mind.

I don't know what to think? Does he subconcieously still have feelings for me & just needs some time and space? OR would you rather say that its DEFINATELY over? I dont stand another chance?

Thank you both once again........means so much to have people that care & listen.

Take care of yourselves!
Lilo
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Lilo, You're right that Q & Juzlisen ARE amaxing, but wrong about most everything else. You deserve so VERy very much more than this selfish and maniplative creep. Dump him. Maybe ask for the shirt and the beding back, telling him that you've met a Real man, who will appreciate them.
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