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09 Oct 2006

The "D" word
This morning he said it again like so many times before - he will take his things and go live with his mother. I love my husband and can put up a good fight - but why does it always have to end in a thread for a divorce or moving out? I also have my faults.

My parents use to have words and never used the "D" word! He knows that it breaks my heart into a million pieces, that's why it happens. I can not trust him anymore - especially when he is all friendly again and then we must go on like nothing has happened. I have confronted him about going on like nothing has happened and then he said that I do not have the ability to forgive people.

My husband does not drink, the only problem that I have is that he can just switch his love on and off towards me. Everyone thinks he is a wonderfull person, they will never believe this about him so I haven't talked to anyone. He seems to think money can make up for everything.

I was thinking of going to counceling alone, but then I will outgrow him and I don't think I am ready for a divorce. We have been married for 4 years and have a beautiful 2 year old and she is the only reason I wake up in the morning.

I am also realistic and know that someday I might have to let go. He can not hurt me forever.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Maybe you've already been outgrowing each other --- but therapy won't produce that as an effect, though it can reveal a situation that already exists. Yes, counselling for yourself, unless he will join you in proper marriage counselling.
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