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02 Oct 2006

The past, the present and the future
I have been going out with the most wonderful man for the past 18 months. We have a great relationship and I adore him with all my heart.

I have been honest with him about my life. About things that happened in my past, things that I am not proud of. I have the opinion that things that happened in a persons past – is just that…the PAST

The problem is now that people in our lives is telling him to break up with me, telling him stories about me. I have never said I was innocent when we met.

I am 34 and have had relationships and there was a time when I was in a bad space and I had no sense of self worth which caused me to gets myself in to situations sexually that was not for my benefit or well being.

Fact of the matter is that I did confide and share this with my boyfriend. I did not go into specifics because I don’t think that specifics needs to be discussed when you share something from the past that you are not proud of. I have been 100% honest and faithful to him.

We don’t understand why people are trying to break us up. How do I, we handle this? This is just so sh!t, especially because I never withheld anything from him. How do I handle these people. I really have a problem with people being all holier than though, when they life in glass houses.I know that you cant have everybody liking you – and I am fine with that, but why always gossip…..why telling stories and thriving on others heartache or making it there mission to tell about others past when they actually have flip-all to do with it?

I really need advice. PLEASE

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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

is it inevitable that these nosy and unpleasant people have to be part of your lives ? Have you discussed with your bf, your concerns about them and how to deal with them ?
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