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21 Jun 2004

Tired Mom - do I deserve more?
Dear Doc I am 39 and have four children - aged 19, 16 and two small kids 4,6. I got married young and although I work full time have always dedicated my life to my husband and kids. lately I feel resentful - like a doormat. I fit everyone else in spending my time organising home, kids and husband. I have a maid in the week but feel like I am the maid over the weekends with everyone else contributing very little.I want to get a hobby but dont know what and also want to do something for myself. My job is just a job for income purposes
I also always feel tired and can fall asleep on the couch in the evenings (sex life suffering!!) Everyone takes part in a sport or hobby and I feel like everyone else in the family has a life and nobody considers me. I love my husband and kids but How do I change this
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hi Mom,
marconi_love has the right idea. Choose your own special activities, and announce them to the family --- the youngest are old enough to help round the house, and your husband and the teenagers certainly so. Let them adjust to your needs, as well as theirs, and share the load, so everybody shares the chores, and everybody has their own time and space for their own enjoyment. what sport or hobby ? Try something you liked before, or something you've always wanted to try. If the first choices aren't pleasant enough, revise plans, and choose again.
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