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09 Feb 2006

to: Anika - long story, sorry :)
Hi there...only now saw your reply of yesterday about my sis..i only found out on Monday that she sms'd him on Saterday that she has a crush on him...luckily we weren't together for very long (only one month) which now seems like forever cause of everything that's going on..i now realize that her actions and attitude over the past weeks had nothing to do with the fight she was having with her own bf and everything to do with her secret feelings for 22 and she's 16...and as i look back over the past 2/3 years i can see a clear patern, it started when my ex of 3 years came for a surprize visit and she developed feelings for him..she was like nasty (jealous) towards me the whole time he was here...Then there was mr. n (we broke up before he went overseas), while we were together (4 almost a year) she one night told him that she loved him, then there was mr. a who i also dated for almost a year, she didn't like him one bit, but she still had an influence on my relationship with him..and now this..i'm moving out end of the month cause my life cant be such a dramatic mess everytime there's a man mom has not said anything to her, she only ignored her on that'll teach her..!..had a discussion with my mom, she said the same thing she says everytime: that my sis reminds her of herself when she was that age and she feels sorry for her...shame..i never expected her to take sides only to make it clear that her behaviour is unacceptable and disgusting..

i dont think she likes him anymore..thats a shame..

as for HIM, saw him drive past the house last night..
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01 Jan 0001

A 16-year-old has no business trying to get involved in a heavy relationship with any man, let alone her own sister's bf. Sounds like she has been far too concerned, from far too early an age, with romantic ideas of falling in love, and forming unwholesome atachments to any man you serioiusly date. And how sad that your mom apparently doesn't care about this, and seem satisfied for her daughter to repeat all the mistakes she made when younger, rather than trying to help her to do better than she did.
Sounds like a good idea for you to be moving out, and leave them to themselves
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