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17 Jan 2006

To the Judge, CS!!!!
Since you obviously don't like me, and disaprove of the majority of the advice that I give, and since I will now stop trying to gain your acceptance and respect, I can now be honest, ok?
I'm only trying to help you know? Are you siding with the majority of the members? Cause that's just wrong! And let me say this, I do not think you can tell the people and their nics apart. I gave mine now (could've left one or two out...) and so did some of the other guys. But you can't tell, can you? It's ok if you can't. I just need you to know that I really just needed acceptance. These guys are the closest to friends I have. I need them. Stop rejecting me please. I turned a new leaf when I became Rose Butt. She don't care and accept rejection and nasty people, but even she may crack. I'm trying to prevent that. I anticipate this post to be deleted, although I would love an answer. Why do you feel so strong towards me? It touches my soul.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hello Rosy,
I don't dislike you at all, nor disapprove. I haven't much noticed your advice or comments except for the couple of days last week when you were very unpleasant indeed towards a number of people --- and that I don't like. It's unkind behaviour I disapprove of, rather than people who at times do it.
As far as I can see, I and other readers have been generally accepting of you. But let me make a couple of points. We all need to feel accepted --- but it's a tactic most often used by adolescents to test that by becoming annoying or challenging to the point of pushing others to reject you, as if only if they can accept you when you are behaving unacceptably, would you feel really acccepted. Secondly, its remarkable how often we complain of not getting what we want, when we haven't actually asked for it. If you want acceptance, you're welcome --- but ask for it, and at least behave acceptably.
As Buzz says, you have at times seemed enormously angry, presumably about something way outside of the forum, but when you allow the anger to spill over here, and direct it towards other readers who have done nothing to deserve it, you arouse anger, your own and that of others, all the more strongly.
This is my site, so of course I have the right to delete offensive posts --- and some that I have deleted were profoundly and needlessly offensive. I will continue to do so, for the better of everyone, even for the benefit of those who make horrid postings. I would only ask for specific individuals to be blocked from the site if they are a continuing nuisance and continuingly offensive --- as the site itself says, hate speech and related offensive postings are NOT tolerated.
The whole point of having different opinions is that they are --- different ; when you express a different opinion, you are saying that you disagree with someone else --- and they have an equal right to disagree with you. But the disagreement doesn't have to be voiced in an ugly manner.
Lindsey makes a vitally important point that to GET acceptance, you need to also freelly GIVE acceptance. And good grief, wouldn't the world be terribly boring for you if everyone agreed with you ?
And as Lindsey so wisely says : " Friendship, acceptance, support and caring can be found here in abundance, but it can't be demanded. It is earned. " Stay on the right road, continue with the constructive comments and contributions you also make, and everyone wll be happier for that.


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