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06 Nov 2008

Trusting after an affair
I have been married for 35 years and my husband had an affair with someone he works with although very brief before i found out. I have always said i could not live with him if he ever had an affair but find myself wanting to give us another chance. what i am finding difficult is that i seem to be the one that is working on the relationship and he keeps on telling me how guilty he feels and has compromised all his principals - should he be the one reaauring me that we can work it out and not the other way round.i trusted this man completely and he has completely shattered me to the core. How does one go forward in this situation. i am the one asking all the questions and he is the one telling me how bad he feels. i dont know where i stand with him now. any suggestions as to how i can find out what he feels and thinks
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Don't try and do all the "working on the relationship' yourself --- see a marriage counsellor together.
I doubt you'd try to fix the car together if it broke down, without taking it to a garage
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