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01 Apr 2004

Unappreative Husband
I am a married woman with two kids. I have a sucessful career and a well established home. My only problem is my relationship with my husband. We got married when i fell pregnant for my first son. I felt we hadn't established a strong enough relationship but i went along and got married because i was determined to make things work. After getting married i had problems with my husband and his mother. He made her the priority in his life. After some couselling we managed work things out and moved on. My career took a boost and i became financially secure. I practically pay all the bills at home. His excuse is i earn more than him and he doesn't have enough money. I'm always taking the family out for holidays and suppers. He never does anything romantic for me. When i ask hi he says i am too demanding and he does not have money for that sort of things. I feel as off i don't love him anymore. I can't even have sex with him. I just hate him for being this way. I wanted a man to show me love and affection. Is that too much too ask ?
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Unhappy, sounds like it could be time for some booster sessions with the marriage counsellor ? No, you're not being too demanding, and it sounds like he's sulking because you now earn more than he does, and isn't pulling hjis weight, financially or emotionally. Can you sit peacefully down with him and explain why this current arrangement Just Won't Do, and needs to be modified ? OK, so he's earning somewhat less than you do --- but it used to be enough to support the family --- so, nowadays, what IS he doing with his earnings ? Wat else is he spending it on ?
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