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31 Aug 2007

Unhappy with my life
I used to be a person who was always happy and spontaneous in life. I was attractive and made decisions on the spur of the moment. I got married when I was 19 and had children straight after that. We moved around a lot and I left all my friends behind in each place. Now we have been living in a big town for a year and I am still not happy here. We still don't have friends, my oldest daughter suffers from a mood disorder, I work for family and feel dependant on my husband. I take care of all the bills and day to day living of each day, including the childrens activities. My life is routine and I never do anything fun. I wake up each morning hoping to feel excited about something but it seems so hard. To top it all off, I'm pregnant again. I feel that I am at an age now where I should be enjoying myself. I love my children and don't regret having them but I don't know if my husband is making me happy or if I've just got problems. I used to be spontaneous, attractive and adventerous. Now I feel unattractive, bored and too scared to make decisions because of my responsibilities. I am not independant or successful and my cv is full of different jobs from moving so often because of my husbands job. I'm so unhappy. We don't go anywhere or do anything together. My heart is saw all the time and I can't concentrate on anything. What can I do to get my 'spunk' back?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

sounds like a potentially rewarding but probably frustrating and wearying situation, N. It might be really rewarding to see a good local counsellor for a proper assessment and some sessions to find a more fruitful way of dealing with this situation
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