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17 Feb 2010

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I recently started dating a guy who works 7 days a week and I generally see him twice a week. He tells me that when he works I should stay in my flat because he doesnt want me walking around. He is very jealous and lately I noticed that he is becoming a bit possessive. He says that every human should have a bit of jealousy because we all pray to a very jealous GOD. When I dont call him at night he will send me messages asking me who I am sleeping with, but when I do call him he doesnt answer my calls. Which makes me think that he is with someone else. He tells me he is inlove with me but this uncertainty is making me unsure of the relationship, I am very independant and have many friends and dont need a relationship to complete my life. He says that my friends are more important than him becaus I will always choose them, This is untrue, my friends fill the gap when he is not around which is very often. What do I do ? I feel that I have to just move on with my life and cut him out, when i did say something in this line to him he told me that he will not tolerate those kind of conversations or messages. Is he obsessed?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

He sounds far more than a little possessive, and to have a weird idea about God and jealousy. He sounds unstable and potentially abusive, so be careful, but don't expect a long and happy relationship with him. Leave as soon as it is safe to do so, and consider getting a protective court order to prevent him from harrassing, threatening or interfering with you.
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