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06 Sep 2007

Is there a part of you that eventually shuts down or just starts to except violence as part of life, or can even make you cynical when that was never part of your nature?
I was thinking in our family and friend circle the acts of violence that have occured by strangers to us is actually terrible, I will list those that I remember
my brothers car was stolen, then a second incident he was held up by gunpoint and his car hi jacked, my husband had to out run 2 other vehicles that were trying to hi jack him. A man tried to rip open my car door after I had pulled out of a parking space, but I had fortunately locked my door, I don't know what he would have done, my uncle was stabbed and pushed down a bank and left to die, he was fould but lost half his leg, an elderly woman family friend was murdered by being stabbed 7 times. My mom in law was savagely beaten and was stabbed and because she pretended to be dead he left her, my father- law's cousin was tied up and I think beaten and was left out on the farm exposed to the cold and he died, and of course the car break ins and cattle thefts.We are what would be considered average living people in reasonable living areas. If this amount of violence can occur to one family/friend unit what is happening to the rest of sa? Why cant people just leave each other alone, why do people have to distroy others.
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01 Jan 0001

I know exactly what you mean. When I lived and worked in the UK, Canada, and even America, I had a wide circle of friends, but I knew NOBODY who had been a victim of such crimes. Since I returned to SA, I don;'t know anybody who has NOT been a victim of such crimes.
It would be scary enough to think that the authorities are no longer in control and are unable to deal with these problems --- but it's a great deal more scary to recognize that they prefer to pretend this is not happening, and dont seem to have the faintest intention of doing anything effective about it, other than devising more ways to deny the extent of the problem.
This is not simplistically caused by apartheid or by poverty --- poverty might drive a man to steal bread, it does not drive him to rape a baby or an old woman, or to kill and maim needlessly.
All we can do is look after ourselves as well as we can. Cynicism is a natural and perhaps helpful response to such a situation, and a degree of denial.
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