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03 May 2004

What did I do wrong?
I have been friends with a guy for about 5 years. At first we dated for 2 months. Now we have been good friends ever since. He found a girl and I went out with another guy. I broke up with this other guy about 5 months ago. Ever since then my friend has been trying to get into my pants. I never ever slept with him yet he kept on trying harder and started to visit me all the time and eventually told me that he had feelings for me. Two weeks ago, he invited me to his house and we got carried away and I finally slept with him. Ever since then, he has ignored me flat. He will not phone me anymore and he promised a month ago that he would come and celebrate my birthday with me but when the time came, he made up soem excuse. He is always making excuses not to see me. I don't want to see him because I love him or because I wanna sleep with him. I just miss him because he is a good friend and I enjoy spending time with him. I have no feelings for him and therefoe feel that it was worng to have slept with him. But he has been trying for ages to get into my pants and when he does, he treats me like crap. Did the sex ruin our friendship or did I do something wrong?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

"getting into your pants" has nothing to do with love, and everything to do with sex. he wanted sex and didn't even try to have a real relatonship with you --- and now he's probably trying his line on some other girl. Nothing that you describe him as having done is anything like a good friend, so I wonder why you enjoy spendin time with him --- every signla you describe him as giving you says he is NOT a riend of yours, and having had the sex he wanted, he's now busy elsewhere. Drop the drip, and look for a real man instead. You did nothing wrong except to listen to his line of chat, and fall for his persuasion. Learn from the experience.
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