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02 Oct 2007

what do I do???
Hi All

Well we broke up 4 months ago, I've somehow moved on...seeing my son every single day...don't see my ex though...even if i'd like to see her, but not seeing her, is better for both of us as Im getting closure on this whole issue.Well we staying in the same street...about 100metres away fron each other..I stay alone, she with our son and her family.

Ive decided to join the gym,gave up most of my bad habits, got a nice job, and now something inside me is telling me to sell my house and move to another location.

I want to do it, I want to move out and on with my life, I want to buy a smaller house or townhouse as I need some time on my own...after six years, I have the world at my feet, have 2 cars a great paynig job, and yet I feel so empty, so lonely...Im not in speaking terms with my ex....I want to talk to her but it seems that she is not willing to talk to me...but I can live with that...Its just that Im a complete wreck, I spend my money on unnessery things, entertaining friends and stuff....purposeless...I can see myself going somewhere.....BUT WHERE TO HUH????WHERE IS MY LIFE HEADING TO???,

i HAVE a lot of meaningless friends who doesn't seem to see what Iam going thru,I have a lot of "female friends who keep on telling me to move on...to get another girl

i CANT GET MY EX OUT OF MY MIND, MY HEART, MY SOUL,....I FEEL SO LOST WITHOUT HER...AND I THINK SHE IS SEEING SOMEONE AT THE MOMENT.

What must i do to get over her???Everything i do reminds me of her,

Would moving away be a good idea for me???Iam even thinking of selling my house, invest some of the profit for my son,get a smaller place, give some money to my family.I want to give my furniture to my brother as he has just bought himself a house....he is starting a family...getting married...and he is younger than me...Im helping him out.....I want to get rid of everything that reminds me of her....

AM I GOING CRAZY OR WHAT????


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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

As yhou might expect, I recommend counselling / therapy --- I find that geographic solutions to emotional problkems rarely work ( you know the --- if only I move to Durban it'll all be fine -- idea ) --- the problems are generalyl the first thing you pack, and the first thing you unpack. Better to sort those out first, and then explore whether a move would also be a good idea. You're not going crazy, you're growing up, facing the broader exisential questions all sensible people ask at one time or another, and truly ready to move on
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