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10 Oct 2008

what do you think
Guys I need your advise pls not your judgements.
My husband and I had been togethe for more that three years and although this is great it hasnt been easy. I found out three days before we got married that he was chatting and flirting with his ex and was even planning to get together with her that weekend. We got married and things were going OK until just s few weeks into the marriage this new lady started calling him and they became " friends"  and it got to a point where they had an affair. I found out about it and wanted to divorce him but we managed to save the marriage and even went for counselling and he promised he has stopped. I fell pregnant and in my first trimester we had a lot of fights and one day I decided to go visit my mom just to take things off my mind. That weekend he came to fetch me proffesing his undying love for me and that night I found out that he was in talks with that " new lady"  . I was furious and began to pack my bags but then again he apologised and I thot about myself and the baby. Thing is these days he is chatting to different ladies on face book and has now gone on NIMBUZZ (what ever the hell that is) he gets phone calls from girls and he is just so secretive. He spends most of the time on his phone till about midnight almost everyday. This is taking it' s toll on me and the baby that I was thinking about when I took him back for the second time is just sensing his and this is not worth it. He is a good man i dont want to paint him black. He loves me (or maybe that' s where I am wrong) I know but he just keeps going on and on as though he was still single. He says he has never had sexual contact with any of these ladies but I just dont believe it and i guess it dont matter now cos he cheated on me whether they had sexual contact or not. What do i do in a situation like this?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

If it seems really easy, this usually means you're missing something. Sounds like more marriage counselling is needed, as he doesn't seem to be taking this relationship seriously enough. He's not such a good man, to waste so much time flirting with others. Even without any sexual contact with the others, it's still selfish and unkind
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