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25 Sep 2007

What to do?
Hi CS,
I had an immensely satisfying session with my pshychologist this morning, but the bf is back in Pretoria and making things tough again. I had a wonderful weekend with the kids, we spent time watching movies, eating popcorn, swimming and going to the Wimpy. My daughter is still with my sister and wants to come home, he is now making me hesitant to bring her back, he got back into Pretoria yesterday and has been calling me all day today.

The school will be calling after this holiday about my decision, there is no question, my children are my choice, but yet I feel scared because I cannot seem to get rid of him. My shrink and I have a plan of action, but I am not so sure of myself, I tend to always give in to him. I don't want to fight anymore and I don't want things to be broken unnecessarily, including me. I will be moving shortly, can't wait, but still too far.

I feel I cannot stop him from seeing his son, but I want it done under supervision, I just hope I can pull it off. I have again decided to stop drinking but this time I believe I can do it, because my daughter was so proud of me, it made my heart beat joyfully. I want her to be happy and believe in me. Please hold thumbs for me that I can at least do that. Maybe if can do that, can get rid of bf easier because he drinks and I honestly actually can't even take the smell of drink.

Anyway, the happy satisfied feeling is gone and I am very tense, so much so that the muscles in my back hurt and my neck is becoming stiff. I am very scared of what can happen, what if things get out of control. I will fight with every breath in my body and I won't let him hurt my kids, me, that is a different story, but it will definitely not be easy for him. What to do?

Hope you are doing well CS.
Take Care
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hello HT,
Well, sounds like many things are still going well. Work hard with your therapist on this plan, as he seems never to have brouight any lasting peace or happiness with him, and only to have complictated everything. All this physical tensions and symptoms are reminders that your body knows what you know, too, that this guy is not good for you.
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