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16 Jan 2006

When reality hits home....
I don't know if there is many other people out there in their early 30's that have the same feelings as I do. After trying to make a relationship work that has never ever worked for almost a decade. I finally gave up, finally excepted that i could not "make" something work or change a person to be diffirent. The worst is to know that you have to dramatically change your little kids lifes. Knowing that you are causing them pain. I feal so guilty! Trying to meet people at my age, is not easy. It seems if a man has kids you are to be avoided. On the dating sites most ladies are looking for rich men or models. I wonder if an average guy, not rich but not doing badly in his 30's with kids will ever meet a nice woman when getting devirced or seperated... Is there anyone that shres my experiences?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Most people give up far too soon ; some of us give up too late. 10 years is tooo much time to spend in an unhappy relationship that isn't working. And early on, if you are not managing to get things right on your own, a couple should work with a relationship counsellor. Living in an unhappy relationship can be worse for kids than living with a civilized divorce or separation. I wonder if you ever meet nice people on dating sites --- and if you did, whether they could be recognizeable.
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