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12 May 2004

WIL NIE HUIS TOE GAAN
MY DOGTERTJIE VAN 8JAAR HET 'N NUWE MAATJIE HUIS TOE GEBRING. DIE KIND WIL NIE HUIS TOE GAAN NIE. SY HUIL HARTVERSKEUREND DAAROOR. WAT KAN EK DOEN?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Hi Bang,
Good advice from our regulars while I was out of the ofice. Obviously, you need to talk with the child, about why she's scared to go home ; and once she knows you're not immediately going to drag her home, she'll probably relax and let you discuss it. With the background you later gave, of a drinken mother and step-father, and her reaction of "freezing" when you give her a little hug, I wonder if the stepfather, for instance, might have abused her in some way. And then I agree with Sylvia --- surely this needs to be reported to the Social workers at the Maatskaplike Werkers Kantore, and the Child Welfare organization. It is their responsibility to investigate such situations, and they ought to be trained in how to do it sensitively and well. Congratulations on being sensitive and sensible enough to pick up this very suspicious situation ; now hand it on to the right experts who have the abilities and powers to do something concrete about it, and perhaps tell the little girl that you care about her, and that she's welcome to keep contact with you. Do return with a fresh posting to let us know what happens.
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