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29 Sep 2006

Will I be a bad mother?
I've suffered from mild depression for a number of years. It all started at the age of 12 after the tragic death of my friend. Now at 27, I still have really bad days with levels of anxiety & irritablity and a general numb feeling. I have a loving boyfriend who has put up with a lot over the past 3 years. One day I would like to get marriaged and have children. But will I end up like my mother who suffered a nervous breakdown not long after I was born because she couldn't handle me. If I'm already so 'unstable' is it wise for me to ever have children? Would this push me to have a complete breakdown and be a bad mother?
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01 Jan 0001

I doubt that you are as "unstable as you fear, Flora. Serious problems in a parent may mean you are more vulnerable to develop such problems, but not doomed to do so. What you need is to see a good local psychiatrist for a full assessment and advice on whether treatment is needed --- and ask about CBT counselling, which may do the necessary. Its likely that, with help, you can eventually be an excellent mother, and you are not likely to react the way your own mother did ( and I wonder whether she had much help, back in those days ?)
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