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21 Feb 2005

y does it hurt so bad
yesterday when i saw him with the new girlfriend, my heart started beating fast, i became nervous and sweating. i was not aware of his presence until someone called out his name...then i started to panic.

a year ago, me and this MAN were close friends (in fact we were so much love) with the intention of dating. however, that did not happen cos i was too slow to leave the current boyfriend , and a big mistake happened...i fell pregnant with current boyfriend.

the MAN was hurt and decided to move to another town to start afresh.We talked about the issue and i accepted that we cannot be together because he does not want someone who has a baby. emotionally, it was not easy but i learned to take it one step at a time.

yesterday, he visited our church and when i saw him i felt the hurt and emptiness again. why is this happening...even after 12 months not seeing each other? is this nomal behavior doc?

i was doing fine all the time but last night my sleep was replaced with worry and now my appetite is poor. am i still in love with him or maybe im in love with the idea of us being together. i dont waant to live a life of regret. please help.
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01 Jan 0001

Why wouldn't it hurt so bad ? It was a very hurtful situation, and one in which you have been able to feel guilty due to your mistake in falling pregnant bu the wrong bf. You're ebing very normal, kim. Habits are hard to break, and dreams, whether realistic or not, are hard to give up. You don't need to live any life of regret, however, if you convince yourself that it is over and won't happen.
Your current man needs o stop being so immature. he will never own his own business, UNLESS he gets into the habit of working hard and learns how businesses work ( which he can learn free of charge if he'll only get off his butt and get a job ). And he needs to earn good money of his own, to pay for his further business ventures as well as his duties towards you and the child, rather than assuming that other people ought to pay for him to fail at something he's not yet qualified to do.
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