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05 Jan 2013

Advice Needed, Please help.
Hi All. I need some advice on behalf of a friend.

Mid last year she met a man who seemed like prince charming gift wrapped and all, and in October he asked her to live with him. She resisted saying she needs her space, and her son needs stability etc, But he promised her the moon and the stars and so she did.

He convinced her to give up her place, sell all her belongings.

Then he went into what she describes as a severe depression. I think it''s more like he went through a WTF was I thinking, this is not the happily ever after I had in mind.

Apparently he became extremely emotionally abusive towards her and even moved out.

Last night he sends her a text that he wants her to go, he can''t deal with the chaos and wants his life back and he wants her out NOW.

She has absolutely nothing. No family she can go to, no furiture, no bedding, kettle, nothing. She has a car and clothes and that is it. She is also not in a financial position to pay a deposit for a place or to go and buy the basics. She is destitute.

I know there is always another side to the story, but, can she claim a kind of maintenance from him till she gets on her feet. This is just so wrong to me that he convinced her to give up everything for a " new life" 

Where can she go for shelter. I thought about having her stay with me, but my house is small, and I am also not in a position to carry somebody financially as I also just make ends meet, and am saving furiously to send my son to a private school for high school . This would also rattle my son, who is facing his last year of primary school. He absolutely flourished last year academically, and much as I cannot see this woman on the street, I also can''t rock my son''s boat.

Any advice would be so welcome. This is really heartsore and I want to help her, I just don''t know how.
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