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20 Sep 2007

Afrikaans Information
Hi there guys,

I was wondering if any of you knew where I could get some information on being GAY in Afrikaans to give to Charl's mother. Because she is so ignorant and really needs some education and then maybe she will accept Charl and then our relationship.

The last straw was when she told Charl that he needs to get his head read and that if he marries me then he will be making the biggest mistake of his life that he will regret forever.

So I have done some research (also because I counsel gay people) but it is all in english, and Charl says she wont understand the lingo, so Im looking for any information in Afrikaans, but it hasnt been successful.

Please let me know if you know of any websites etc...



PS - My mom (Ferny) and dad are visiting at the moment and we are having a lovely time together :-)
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Stef, good to hear from you again and I've just remembered that I owe you specific information - sorry!

Seriously, I doubt that anything you did would change Charl's mother's attitude - she sounds cognitively stuck and would simply be very defensive to any intervention aimed at shifting her. This may not even be a good time to try to intervene - she's made her decision and needs to stick to it in order for her to justify her response to your up-coming marriage. My suggestion is that you back off completely and don't respond to her views at all. This could obviously be very tough for Charl but he's allowing her to hurt him. Try not to make her attitude your problem.
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