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26 Jan 2006

"Coming Out"
I recently "came out" to my brothers. The one was very accepting but I had a huge fallout with the other one. Now he's acting as if I never said anything. Should I just leave it at that, or should I talk to him about it?
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Question and welcome to our forum.

Congrats on coming out to your brothers! I agree with Luke and Nikki - allow your one brother space to process the information at his own pace and in his own way. It is possible that he's simply trying to avoid the issue completely. However, in the same way that you need to respect his space he needs to respect yours - answer all his questions, if he has any, but don't accept any prejudiced or derogatory comments from him. An option is to give your more accepting brother consent to discuss your being gay with your non-accepting brother.
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