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06 Sep 2007

Emotionally Hammered
Hi all,

Hope everyone is well,

Today I feel emotionally drained, yesterday was a little bit too much to handle. I think I attract quite a bit of drama, its probably my aura or some other energy that puts me in the middle of everything thats dramatic. EISH!

My day as it was yesterday:

I got into work quite early and worked like a maniac from teh minute I got to my desk. I had to help a client with a major crises, it seems to me that the moment someone messes up, I have to clean up and fix everything, this was the second time in two weeks. It was teh first time that I had client who was in tears, and that set a new tone for teh rest of the day. I rushed and did everything I could to help this client which was done successfully. In between all my work and helping this client my sister called, hysterical almost in tears because someone told her that my mom has become a party animal and parties until teh early hours of teh morning and that her new boyfriend who is a year or two older than me is an ex convict. I tried to calm my sister and then phoned my mom, in teh beginning I was calm and when I told her teh story she started screaming and shouting and swearing, this is something I am not accustomed too especially not from my mom. I was so shocked and I just lost it. I raised my voice and actually told my mom to shut up and to watch her mouth cause no mother of mine is going to talk like that with me or with anyone in my presence. I had to be incredibly firm with her cause she was really bad.

At the moment I dont know how to handle the boyfreind issue, teh fact that her young guy was in prison sends shivers down my spine. I pay all her bills she doesnt have t o worry about anything, I maintain the house she lives in and gives her a handsome allowance every month in addition she gets annuity income thanks to my belated father and now I am afraid that this guy sees her as a cash cow. She is becoming very irresponsible and is giving me the impression that she cant look after herself.

She walks around with two cell phones! why that is I dont have a friggin clue!

It is such a horrible feeling and I still have palpetations thinking about it. I called a family meeting to discuss current events and I am afraid of the way it might turn out.

Last night I snapped at my boyfriend who told me that I hurt him because of my attitude last night. I was just so pissed off by the time I got home, I worked late then had rush to pick up a friend at work and another at the hotel who just arrived from Joburg unexpectedly so the two of them could be together. In between all of this I had to arrange for dinner for my hubby and then getting ready for visitors, that means running into teh shops get some snacks. Yesterday I was really beside myself and even though I have a policy not to drink any alcohol in the week I had to indulge to keep myself at least a little sociable.

Today I am nackered! Tired with a capital T... I phoned my mom to ask how she was doing she said ok and didnt want to continue talking to me. I apologised to my boyfriend again today and he is totally fine , I cant wait to see him.

I hope i will be feeling better tomorrow. I am just so scared and worried about my mother.

Thanks for reading my posting.

Love and hugs.

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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Greek and as always, thanks for your post. Things sure sound stressful for you at the moment.

This is a good example of your need to establish and maintain interpersonal boundaries. Your mom is an adult and although she may be making a few mistakes you need to take a step back - it sounds as if you tried your best to intervene but your input was rejected. Your hands are tied so back off a bit and rather invest in yourself and your own relationship.

I hope you were able to have a good weekend and that you spent quality time with your partner. How's his health doing?
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