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18 Sep 2006

I need new friends - where do I start?
Live in JHB, broke up with my gal exactly 1 year ago. Been to therapy and am in a good space to meet new friends. I want friends that will be a positive uplifting force in my life. Where on earth do I start?
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Joan of Arc, thanks for posting here and please accept my apology for this late response.

Don't wait for new friends to uplift your life. Assume responsibility for that yourself. Nurture yourself, expand your world and enjoy yourself. Treat yourself to aromatherapy or a Thai cookery course. Accept social invites you receive. Join a club or a group, take up a new interest and make a point of going out more. Don't be shy to invite someone to join you for movies, and try inviting a friend to dinner and ask her (or him) to bring someone else along. Maybe your gay male friends can introduce you to their lesbian friends. Try volunteering your time with an organisation - the SPCA or whatever (I can’t think of any gay volunteer-based organisations in Jhb other than Jhb Pride or the Gay & Lesbian Film Festival). Go visit GALA, the really interesting Gay And Lesbian Archives housed at Wits University. If you're into it, join a gay church group. Start a book club - you need three people and slowly invite others to join. Find a great coffee shop and visit their regularly until you get know the other regulars. Take the initiative.
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