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09 Jan 2006

need a luittle guidence
Hey, ok first things first, im definatly bisexual and prehaps even gay, man it feels good to finally just tell soemone this. I have known this from about the age of ten, yet am still to tell anyone, friends, family etc. In fact this is the first time i have even written down to a forum. I have always accepted the fact that i'm bisexual/gay and have never denied it but also have never told anyone.

The problem is this, from the same time i found out i was gay i also developed OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder), as the years went on my OCD got worse, i managed to get over it for like a year but now find im suffereing with OCD again.

Could the stress/pressure from not admitting to anyone that i am bisexual/gay be the cause of my OCD? just seems odd that it developed at the same time as i found out that i was gay/bisexual.

I would be very greatful for any light you could shed on the situation
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Confused and a warm welcome to our forum. I can only imagine how it must feel, after all these years, to finally come out with it and say "I am gay". Even sharing this anonymously on a forum is significant, so thanks for posting here.

I doubt that the stress of not admitting to anyone that you're gay or bisexual would be the cause of your OCD. Although stress does play in role in the disorder, a chemical imbalance is implied and many people with OCD often respond well to medication. Sorry to hear that your condition has flared up again - if you're not opposed to medication you may want to consider this option. You're welcome to address your question to Cybershrink, here on Health24 - many people find him very gay-friendly.

At some point it may be wise for you to come out to someone you really trust to respect your confidentiality, and to socialise with a few gay people, so that you can talk openly to someone about yourself. Your sexual orientation is a major aspect of who you are as a person.

Please post again and tell us how you're doing. One of our regular visitors, who posts under the name ‘Confused’, may ask you to change your name - I hope you won’t feel offended.
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