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03 Sep 2007

Some time back my gf whom I was living with informed me that she had found out about my infidelity over three years and packed my stuff and asked me to leave her house.
I felt bad about it and had no idea that she was fully aware of my tricks. I cannot believe that she always knew but said nothing for 3 years - at the same time I ADMIRE her noblity for being so forgiving and consistent in her treatment of me during that time. She treated me well, provided for me when i was UNEMPLOYED knowing full well that I was having regular clandestine affairs. I am so guilt ridden but also in denial that I did anything much so that i now have a new girlfriend and I am so scared that I will do the same. I am looking for reasons to make contact with my ex and even asked whether I could collect personal belongings of mine i left behind. She told me she would leave them on the front porch and I was free to collect themas she did not want me in her house. THis hurt me deeply and I am so confused and stubborn- I just cant get myself to say sorry from teh bottom of my heart.I know that I have lost all credibility with her and her family who adored me totally. How could i do this to some one I loved and someone who loved me so unconditionally. I cant expect her ever to take me back but how do I make some sort of restitution just to show honour and rfeleive me of the carry. I know that my present relationship (on the rebound) is going to suffer under the luggage I carry and sometimes wonder if I should end it.
please advise
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hello Hasta La Vista, welcome to the forum and thanks for your post.

This may have very little to do with your girlfriend and everything to do with yourself; I suggest you go into a process of counselling.
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