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01 Feb 2006

straight but desire a women
Yes I am married got a kid but I have a fantasy of being with a women, to touch and kiss her turns me totally on.
I have never been with a women but I really want to, why the hell am I thinking like this?
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Lady L and welcome to our forum.

Being married and having children doesn't make you straight - sexual orientation concerns whether you're more attracted (emotionally and sexually) to men or to women. Many gay and lesbian people are heterosexually married with children. Many people only begin to realise that they're bisexual or gay after they've been heterosexually married for a few years.

You need to decide whether this is merely a fantasy, or whether you're truly attracted to other women and wish to explore this further. Obviously the latter could have significant implications for you.

You're welcome to call Triangle Project on (021) 448 3812 to request that they post you a free booklet called "New Beginnings", for people aged 30 - 45 who're coming to terms with not being straight.
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