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25 Oct 2006

Which way am I?
Hi, is it possible to be bi sexual, ppl tell me its one way or another. I am attracted to both men and woman but feel its easier for me to talk to woman and flirt with them as I am one, however I never push too hard as u never know whem they mite get offended. Men I am a bit unsure around and feel like Im either acting to feminine (girlie) or 2much like 1 of their buddies. I have been in 2 serious relationships with men and 1 with a woman. I can never make up my mind. Woman that r not hardcore lesbian and butch r hard 2 come by and my lack of self confidence around men doesn't help, I am starting to feel lonely.
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Confused and thanks for this post.

It is very possible to be bisexual - don't let people try to force you to be either gay or straight - but be aware that it is possible for people to consider themselves bisexual if they haven't resolved their real sexual identity yet, or are feeling confused :) It does sound as if you're more comfortable with women but you don't tell us whether you're more sexually and emotionally attracted to women or to men.

The one thing that stands out about your post is the sense that you're seldom simply being yourself - you're either 'acting' or flirting? That could be due to a low-esteem or the fact that you seldom feel in control - that you try to please others by being who you think they want you to be in order to gain their acceptance.
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