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05 Sep 2007

So this is me, a young guy in his 20's who's been battling to come to grips with being gay. I finally started accepting myself, so that's the good news.
A few weeks ago i started seeing this guy. and it felt so natural and normal and it was awesome. i had my first intimate experience with a man (don't worry, we were very safe :) ).
it didn't last and we aren't together anymore. but i started getting quite bad jock itch, and despite using anti itch creams etc, i have pubic lice / crabs now :(. i am so disgusted and freaked out and don't know what to do!
can anybody give me advice on what the hell this is all about and what i can use to get rid of it (preferably something i can get discreetly at dischem or something because i am so embarrassed you wont even believe).
so so much for my first gay experience huh?
Please help!
Expert, i'm sorry if this is the wrong forum! i'm just getting a bit desperate right now... :(
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Freaked Out, a warm welcome to the forum and thanks for posting.

Congrats on coming to terms with your sexuality and for having your first intimate encounter, and that this felt comfortable and natural.

Tough one that you also got crabs.... as LoneWolf suggests, get yourself some Quellada and it will clear up. Simple.

Don't let the crabs negate your actual sexual experience - sex should be natural, intimate, comfortable and satisfying and an uncomfortable initial sexual encounter could negate your sexual intimacy in the future. Seperate these issues: 1) the sex was great, and 2) the crabs were lousy, unforseen and unfortunate.

Well done on doing the 'safer sex' thing (if you have any questions regarding safer sex please feel free to ask) and I wish you much pleasurable intimacy in the future :)
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