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25 Oct 2008

21 weeks Miscarriage
Hi Doc.

On the 16 Aug i had a miscarriage, the baby and the placenta came out. i wasn' t able to go to the private hospital because of the pain i was feeling and also the public hospital is the one nearer.

Everything was ok, I had no pain and the baby was fine. Can you kindly try to explain what would have been the problem as the doctors didn' t explain anything to me and how can i prevent it in the future.
There' s void in my spirit, body and the only thing i would like to happen is to fall pregnant again. 3 months is too long to wait. I don' t want to replace my baby by falling pregnant he was my first child but i feel the need to have one. i' m 23 yrs old and my partner is 29.

Please also advice on how should i deal with my partner, he' s ignoring me haven' t spoke to him about the miscarriage since it happened. he has taken it very bad and all i want is 4 us to talk about it.

Please help me. Thank you in advance.
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GynaeDoc
gynaedoc

01 Jan 0001

It could be that you have an incompetent cervix. When you are pregnant again, you need to book early and have a scan to check the cervix. While you may be impatient to fall pregnant again, there is a higher miscarriage rate if you fall pregnant within 3 months of a miscarriage. Men deal with things differently. Perhaps you could both see a counsellor.

Best wishes
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