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21 Feb 2010

CLINGING BEHAVIOUR
I hope you can help me. I am a single mom of a 13 month old boy. I am currently living with my father and trying to find a job. My father is a hot tempered person and has already given my son a very hard slap on the legs when he was being noisy. I am so worried as if I make an scene, he may throw us out. I try and keep my son away from him, but it is hard when he is home. My son has become so clinging that he becomes hysterical when he can t see me. I do not have other options at the moment and I know my son is picking up my tension by being so clinging. My father does not interact with him and has never looked after him in any way.
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childhood diseases
paediatrician

01 Jan 0001

This is all very sad.It is such a pity that your father who should be proud of and loving towards his grandson is just the opposite. In fact by making you so tense and unhappy and by slapping your son he has caused such stress and tension that your baby is terrified and is very anxious.You cannot continue to live under these circumstances.Your father needs to be warned that if he hits your baby again you will report him to the nearest social services.Is there no other place where you can stay in the meantime, possibly with a friend? The only way forward is for you to find work and to try get your own place to stay.Your baby's father is responsible for supporting him and you are also eligible for a child grant.You need to discuss your problems with the nearest social worker.
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