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16 Aug 2007

Potty Training Troubles
My son is 37 months and not potty trained at all. I have been trying for a year and was making some progress in that he would use the potty if I suggested it. He has never told me when he feels the urge to go or asked for the potty himself. I have been trying not to make a fuss, but would quietly put the potty on the floor when he was undressed, he would sit down and when he had finished I would say thank you or well done. But it wasn't always successful as he wasn't telling me if he had the urge to go, so often I put him on the potty too late. I have sometimes tried taking the nappy off altogether and putting him into pants, but then he just wets everything repeatedly and doesn't even seem to notice that he is wet.

But now for the last six weeks or so, he has started refusing altogether to use the potty. A typical response is like this morning when I suggested it and he said "No sit on the potty, Mommy. I need a clean nappy." If I don't respond, he goes to the cupboard and takes out a nappy and says "put it on Mommy". I used to read him a little potty training storybook, but if I try to read it now, he grabs the book and throws it across the room. This change seems to coincide with him starting playschool two mornings a week, but I can't be sure because he wasn't getting on too well with the potty before that. In fact, one of the reasons why I sent him to playschool was so that he could see the other kids using the potty and feel a bit of peer pressure.

I tried a star chart long ago, but it seemed to be too much pressure for him, because he also started refusing the potty at that time.
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childhood diseases
paediatrician

01 Jan 0001

It seems as if he has had enough of the potty training for a while. Give him a complete break for 10 to 14 days days or so then re-start your programme. You must use a reward system of some kind, I will leave it to you to decide, but the star system does not seem to be of any use. How about a small gift of something that he likes when he uses the potty or toilet successfully? He should be using training pants now and not nappies which make him feel that he is still a baby.
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