Looking at sexuality on a spectrum – Kinsey model; you have the extreme homosexual and the extreme heterosexual and then the majority of people fall somewhere between the two extremes. That said people often have fantasies about same sex or heterosexual sex but does not necessarily always live it out. Furthermore it is possible that a person can be turned on by both homo-sexual and hetero-sexual sex and that does not necessarily determine their sexual orientation. By the sound of it the two of you could benefit from having a heart to heart talk about what is happening in you three-some sex and how that impacts on your relationship. Engaging in three-some sex has the potential to add stress to a relationship in the long run. Should you need to discuss this with a professional it could be beneficial for your existing relationship.

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