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10 May 2013

Marriage Problems
Dear Doc, I am considering leaving my husband. I can honestly say that I am truly and utterly unhappy. It’s not that I don’t love him, I just feel like he is never there to support me emotionally or financially. I am responsible for everything and I am so tired. We fight constantly, because no matter what I say or do, there is always a problem with it. I usually try to keep the peace as I hate confrontation, but I feel this hate and frustration building up inside of me and I am very irritable and snappy. I don’t like the person I have become because of this. I have spoken to him about this before, but things usually go well for a week or two and then we are back to how things were. We have seen a psychiatrist together a couple of years ago, but he didn’t want to join in on the exercises, we have been for marriage counselling, but again he had a problem with the counsellor. I have no friends of my own, as he doesn’t approve of my friends that I had when I met him. He is very judgemental and we are only allowed to be friends with the people he approves off. He always has a problem with everyone, even our families. I feel lonely and miserable. We have a child, and the child is not allowed to do normal things that other kids does. He is very overprotective. Sometimes I feel like I need to leave, just so that I can breathe and be myself again… But then, I feel guilty for taking his child from him and ruining our marriage… I have no idea what to do. I thought maybe I should ask for a trial separation, but he will never allow this. Please help!